By Minister Sonnie Robinson (Apr 2025)

Can We Talk? Did you realize that your attitude impacts how you handle relationships, the words you speak, your self-control, and even your attitude? Have you ever noticed how your attitude affects not just your day but your entire life? Think about it, it’s not just circumstances, it’s the lens through which you see your life.

Paul spoke to relationships. Philippians 2:5, reminds us: “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.” That means our attitude isn’t just a personal preference—it’s a reflection of Christ in us. Proverbs 17:22 tells us, “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Paul and Silas understood this. Beaten and thrown into prison, they didn’t complain or wallow. Instead, they worshiped (Acts 16:25) and what happened? Chains broke— doors opened. Their attitude shaped their outcome. Your attitude is a reflection of your faith. Therefore, if we focus on problems we magnify THEM, but if we focus on God’s promises we magnify HIM! So, ask yourself: Does my attitude reflect trust in God, or fear of my circumstances?

Now, let’s get practical. We all have moments when we react in ways we regret. In those moments, what takes over, your emotions or the Holy Spirit? Self-control is a Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). It’s not just about resisting temptation—it’s about responding with grace when life tests you. Look at Jesus in the wilderness (Matthew 4:1-11). The enemy tempted Him, prodding at His identity, trying to provoke a reaction. But Jesus didn’t act on impulse; He responded with the Word.

Words carry weight. Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Have you ever had someone speak encouragement over you? It sticks, doesn’t it? The same goes for harsh words—they linger. James 3:5-6 reminds us that the tongue is small, but it can set a whole forest on fire. That means we have a choice: are we setting fires of destruction, or are we lighting up the world with truth and love? Gossip, negativity, harsh words—these aren’t just bad habits. They’re indicators of what’s in our hearts. So, are my words bringing life or causing harm?

Finally, if a relationship, situation or behavior is pulling you away from God, it’s time to set boundaries. That doesn’t mean cutting people off in anger, however, it does mean guarding your heart so you can stay aligned with Christ. You must not allow unhealthy relationships or situations to drain you. Scripture warns us in 1 Corinthians 15:33: “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.” Even Jesus set boundaries. When certain followers rejected His message, He let them go (John 6:66-67). Jesus loved everyone, but He wasn’t entangled in every relationship.

WOW! We’ve covered a lot—relationships, words, self-control, and attitude. Each of these areas shapes your heart and your walk with God. So, here’s my challenge to you: Pick one area to focus on this week. Maybe it’s shifting your attitude or biting your tongue before speaking in anger. Maybe it’s setting healthy boundaries.

Whatever it is, take one step closer to a Christ-like heart!